So here's the situation:
When we moved into this house, we painted all three bedrooms. The master is a nice warm orangey-brown, the guest room is lilac/lavender, and the office/library is vibrant blue. (We also painted the downstairs "kenyan gold", but that's not really relevant.)
The kid is due in August. Before then, we have to decide which room it's going to get. This is one of the reasons I want to find out what it is (once the wife is far enough along). She is very attached to her blue office, and doesn't want to move everything into the lilac guestroom. After all the work we did painting, I refuse to repaint the lilac guestroom. If we have a girl, the point will be moot; the girl can have the lilac room, and we'll turn the blue room into an office/library/guestroom (which means my wife will FINALLY have to unpack the 20 boxes she just shoved in there and forgot about, and don't let her tell you she's looked through them, because she hasn't).
But what if it's a boy? I really don't want to paint the guestroom. It was hard enough the first time. And I really don't think it's appropriate for a boy to have a lilac room. I mean, sure, when he's little, fine. But the moment his friends come over and see it, I guarantee you they'll deride him for the color of it. Children can be mean and haven't yet learned tact.
The other problem with painting is that the wife can't be around the fumes, and I'll have to keep the door closed to keep the cats out of there. If we paint after the kid is born but before it's old enough to look after itself, we'll still have to keep the doors closed to keep the cats out AND we'll have to keep an eye on the kid and make sure s/he doesn't sniff, spill, or sample the paint. Or I'll have to do the painting by myself. (We have no friends who live near enough to just pop over and help.)
It would take all of four hours to move everything from the blue room to the lilac room, even if the wife doesn't help. It's not hard to box the books, move the shelves, put the books back up, unhook her computer, move her desk, re-hook everything up, and transfer the stuff from the office closet to the guestroom closet.
I don't think I'm being unreasonable. Am I? Or am I on the right track here?
All her friends (and her mom, who adores purple in all its shades) think she's right. So far I'm the only person who's on my side.
I'm assuming your wife's side is to just put the boy in the lilac room?
Moving all the furniture from one room into another seems ridiculous to me. Why did it take you so long to paint it in the first place? It should take about an hour to paint a normal sized room... seems you'd save time on the arguing and stress about your maybe-son's future friends if you just repainted it.
You have two rooms. One is lilac, one is blue. Doesn't seem like a problem to me. Just find out which sex the baby is and clean out the appropriate room. No repainting necessary.
Move.
Do you own a shed?
Quote from: Alice on February 20, 2006, 02:06:36 PM
I'm assuming your wife's side is to just put the boy in the lilac room?
Yes. If it is a boy. If it's a girl, none of this will matter.
QuoteMoving all the furniture from one room into another seems ridiculous to me. Why did it take you so long to paint it in the first place? It should take about an hour to paint a normal sized room... seems you'd save time on the arguing and stress about your maybe-son's future friends if you just repainted it.
It's not that it would take too long to paint... it's getting all the shit out of there and out of the way (and there's four pieces of furniture in there, all of which are pretty big). I just hate painting. Why did we spend money on repainting it when we moved in a year ago if we're just going to repaint again? Seems silly. Easier to just put the office in the purple room.
Quote from: sapphirehart on February 20, 2006, 02:08:06 PM
You have two rooms. One is lilac, one is blue. Doesn't seem like a problem to me. Just find out which sex the baby is and clean out the appropriate room. No repainting necessary.
Boy, sapph, if only my wife was that practical. That is EXACTLY what I want to do. She refuses.
Quote from: ReBurn on February 20, 2006, 02:26:32 PM
Do you own a shed?
No, but we have a basement and half a garage. Still, taking the wife out to the woodshed loses something if you're not bringing her across the yard to an actual outbuilding...
Oh, wait, that probably wasn't what you meant, was it.
No, we don't.
Oh, I was going to suggest putting the kid out there.
If your wife likes the blue in her office, let her stay in there. You are the one that has a problem with the lilac in the boys room, not her - therefore - she shouldn't have to do something she doesn't want to just because you have gender stigma attached to color.
Move the furniture into the middle of the room, throw a tarp over it, paint walls, let dry, move furniture back. Is all this furniture staying in there once it becomes your kids room?
Quote from: Alice on February 20, 2006, 02:36:06 PM
If your wife likes the blue in her office, let her stay in there. You are the one that has a problem with the lilac in the boys room, not here - therefore - she shouldn't have to do something she doesn't want to just because you have gender stigma attached to color.
Move the furniture into the middle of the room, throw a tarp over it, paint walls, let dry, move furniture back. Is all this furniture staying in there once it becomes your kids room?
Probably not.
I don't think that I have gender stigma toward the color -- okay, maybe a little -- but I am concerned that boys whose parents raise them to be MANLYMEN might have difficulties with a boy who's got a purple room. I just want to keep the little bugger happy.
I know that in the end I'll be the one doing all the work, and I've accepted that. The underlying problem is that even if I volunteer to do it she'll put her foot down and not let me do it, citing the unnecessary cost of paint and paint supplies.
Quote from: Listener on February 20, 2006, 02:38:11 PM
The underlying problem is that even if I volunteer to do it she'll put her foot down and not let me do it, citing the unnecessary cost of paint and paint supplies.
Well you won't need to buy painting supplies if you just painted a year ago. And you can get one-coat paint from Wal-Mart extremely cheaply.
Quote from: Alice on February 20, 2006, 02:41:33 PM
Quote from: Listener on February 20, 2006, 02:38:11 PM
The underlying problem is that even if I volunteer to do it she'll put her foot down and not let me do it, citing the unnecessary cost of paint and paint supplies.
Well you won't need to buy painting supplies if you just painted a year ago. And you can get one-coat paint from Wal-Mart extremely cheaply.
I think in the end I'm going to try and get her to agree to see what the baby is first, boy or girl, before we really have The Discussion about it. Although I'm a bigger fan of older-brother-younger-sister, in the long run it might be easier if the first one is a girl.
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Quote from: Listener on February 20, 2006, 02:38:11 PM
The underlying problem is that even if I volunteer to do it she'll put her foot down and not let me do it, citing the unnecessary cost of paint and paint supplies.
Well you won't need to buy painting supplies if you just painted a year ago. And you can get one-coat paint from Wal-Mart extremely cheaply.
I think in the end I'm going to try and get her to agree to see what the baby is first, boy or girl, before we really have The Discussion about it. Although I'm a bigger fan of older-brother-younger-sister, in the long run it might be easier if the first one is a girl.
Since this is your first child....I just want to make you aware that you don't get to pick the sex. You get whatever you get and you can't exchange it once it's yours.
Painting really isn't that expensive. Or hard. I would do whatever the wife wants on this one. After carrying that baby for 9 months she deserves it.
Quote from: ReBurn on February 20, 2006, 02:58:55 PM
Painting really isn't that expensive. Or hard. I would do whatever the wife wants on this one. After carrying that baby for 9 months she deserves it.
Every potential father has some sticking point. This one's mine. I've gone along with everything else so far.
Plus, I'm still in hell... she's supposed be in her 4th month now, which means she's supposed to be hitting the "honeymoon" period where everything is wonderful. But she's still in First Trimester Sick All The Time mode... and I think she'll stay there until her subconscious lets up... which will never happen.
Quote from: Listener on February 20, 2006, 03:06:39 PM
Quote from: ReBurn on February 20, 2006, 02:58:55 PM
Painting really isn't that expensive. Or hard. I would do whatever the wife wants on this one. After carrying that baby for 9 months she deserves it.
Every potential father has some sticking point. This one's mine. I've gone along with everything else so far.
Plus, I'm still in hell... she's supposed be in her 4th month now, which means she's supposed to be hitting the "honeymoon" period where everything is wonderful. But she's still in First Trimester Sick All The Time mode... and I think she'll stay there until her subconscious lets up... which will never happen.
Well, I have three kids. At no time during any of my wife's pregnancies did she ever reach the "honeymoon" period. And in the last one she was sick the entire time. In the first one she couldn't walk at all during the third trimester. Trust me, the hell you're experiencing is nothing like what she's going through.
We we got to be kindergarten age, our parents let us pick what color to paint our rooms. My brother picked purple. He's decidedly ungay.
Quote from: Gamplayerx on February 20, 2006, 03:17:07 PM
We we got to be kindergarten age, our parents let us pick what color to paint our rooms. My brother picked purple. He's decidedly ungay.
My mom let my sister pick out the carpet for her bedroom when she was younger. She was madly in love with Donnie Osmond at the time. Her carpet was a very deep purple. It was rather ugly.
Quote from: Listener on February 20, 2006, 03:06:39 PM
Quote from: ReBurn on February 20, 2006, 02:58:55 PM
Painting really isn't that expensive. Or hard. I would do whatever the wife wants on this one. After carrying that baby for 9 months she deserves it.
Every potential father has some sticking point. This one's mine. I've gone along with everything else so far.
Plus, I'm still in hell... she's supposed be in her 4th month now, which means she's supposed to be hitting the "honeymoon" period where everything is wonderful. But she's still in First Trimester Sick All The Time mode... and I think she'll stay there until her subconscious lets up... which will never happen.
If you think you're in hell, imagine how your wife feels, having been sick for the last 16 or so weeks. Just to put things in perspective.
Reburn is right.
Also, why not wait til there's something to argue about to argue? Why spend the next however many weeks fighting over it when there's a 50/50 shot that it's totally unnecessary?
This isn't really about paint, but I'd suggest taking a step away from What to Expect When You're Expecting.
Those books are a loose guide. Every pregnancy is different.
I've been pregnant twice. The first time, I was sick maybe 5 times the entire time.
The second time, I was sick no less than five times every single day. I assure you, it wasn't in my mind.
I'm going to be blunt here, because well, we're honest around here. I hope you appreciate that.
You should consider not assuming that you're wife is faking or that it's in her head. Being pregnant is HARD. It is not fun, it doesn't feel good, it makes you fat and ugly and miserable.
I would really suggest going out of your way to help her and make sacrifices. She's making plenty of her own every day that she carries your child inside her. Not to mention the weight gain she'll never lose and the stretch marks that will never fade and the boobs that will NEVER be back where they started.
I don't live in your house, and I don't know your wife, and I could be totally wrong, but from here, it seems like it might do you both good to lighten up on her a little.
I'm sorry if this hurts your feelings, it's not meant to.
I think Jessie is pms-ing today.
/I keed, I keed!!!
Quote from: sapphirehart on February 20, 2006, 04:20:45 PM
I think Jessie is pms-ing today.
/I keed, I keed!!!
I'm pregnant, remember?
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Quote from: Listener on February 20, 2006, 03:06:39 PM
Quote from: ReBurn on February 20, 2006, 02:58:55 PM
Painting really isn't that expensive. Or hard. I would do whatever the wife wants on this one. After carrying that baby for 9 months she deserves it.
Every potential father has some sticking point. This one's mine. I've gone along with everything else so far.
Plus, I'm still in hell... she's supposed be in her 4th month now, which means she's supposed to be hitting the "honeymoon" period where everything is wonderful. But she's still in First Trimester Sick All The Time mode... and I think she'll stay there until her subconscious lets up... which will never happen.
Well, I have three kids. At no time during any of my wife's pregnancies did she ever reach the "honeymoon" period. And in the last one she was sick the entire time. In the first one she couldn't walk at all during the third trimester. Trust me, the hell you're experiencing is nothing like what she's going through.
I just wrote a HUGE blog post about this phenomenon (it'll hit my site tomorrow). So I'm going to withhold commentary until then, except for this: obviously, every pregnancy is different. If our next kid is like your first or third (the pregnancy, that is), I'll understand, but for now, this is my only frame of reference.
The rest of what I want to say would just be repeating the post, so I'm going to save it. Suffice it to say it's going to make a lot of people think that I'm the biggest asshole on the planet. (At least, for those people who don't already think so. :D)
Quote from: Jessie on February 20, 2006, 04:17:26 PM
This isn't really about paint, but I'd suggest taking a step away from What to Expect When You're Expecting.
Those books are a loose guide. Every pregnancy is different.
I've been pregnant twice. The first time, I was sick maybe 5 times the entire time.
The second time, I was sick no less than five times every single day. I assure you, it wasn't in my mind.
I'm going to be blunt here, because well, we're honest around here. I hope you appreciate that.
You should consider not assuming that you're wife is faking or that it's in her head. Being pregnant is HARD. It is not fun, it doesn't feel good, it makes you fat and ugly and miserable.
I would really suggest going out of your way to help her and make sacrifices. She's making plenty of her own every day that she carries your child inside her. Not to mention the weight gain she'll never lose and the stretch marks that will never fade and the boobs that will NEVER be back where they started.
I don't live in your house, and I don't know your wife, and I could be totally wrong, but from here, it seems like it might do you both good to lighten up on her a little.
I'm sorry if this hurts your feelings, it's not meant to.
Never read the book. And believe me, it takes a lot more than this to hurt my feelings.
I think some of it is that SHE lives by that book, or other books like it.
A lot of my problems with this whole situation stem from the fact that while the woman is obviously going through a lot more than the man is, there's no safe place for men to share their feelings without being made to think that they're being insensitive. It's like we have to sublimate them from the day the pregnancy officially starts ("the stick's pink") to the day the kid starts school.
Quote from: Jessie on February 20, 2006, 04:21:28 PM
Quote from: sapphirehart on February 20, 2006, 04:20:45 PM
I think Jessie is pms-ing today.
/I keed, I keed!!!
I'm pregnant, remember?
Did you ever find out who the father was?
Quote from: Jessie on February 20, 2006, 04:24:11 PM
Quote from: sapphirehart on February 20, 2006, 04:22:41 PM
Quote from: Jessie on February 20, 2006, 04:21:28 PM
Quote from: sapphirehart on February 20, 2006, 04:20:45 PM
I think Jessie is pms-ing today.
/I keed, I keed!!!
I'm pregnant, remember?
Did you ever find out who the father was?
I've got it narrowed down to like 5.
Am I on the short list?
I don't think that it's insensitive to speak your mind about the difficulties of being a father or a father to be.
I'm sure it's difficult dealing with someone who is miserable all the time. However, when you repeatedly say essentially that she's faking it, that does make you seem insensitive.
You have no way of knowing that it's in her head or that she's read too many books. You have no other frame of reference, but really, each pregnancy is its own frame of reference.
Quote from: sapphirehart on February 20, 2006, 04:25:04 PM
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Quote from: Jessie on February 20, 2006, 04:21:28 PM
Quote from: sapphirehart on February 20, 2006, 04:20:45 PM
I think Jessie is pms-ing today.
/I keed, I keed!!!
I'm pregnant, remember?
Did you ever find out who the father was?
I've got it narrowed down to like 5.
Am I on the short list?
oh yeah, baby.
Quote from: Jessie on February 20, 2006, 04:27:06 PM
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Quote from: sapphirehart on February 20, 2006, 04:22:41 PM
Quote from: Jessie on February 20, 2006, 04:21:28 PM
Quote from: sapphirehart on February 20, 2006, 04:20:45 PM
I think Jessie is pms-ing today.
/I keed, I keed!!!
I'm pregnant, remember?
Did you ever find out who the father was?
I've got it narrowed down to like 5.
Am I on the short list?
oh yeah, baby.
Yay, I may be the baby daddy!
Quote from: Jessie on February 20, 2006, 04:26:24 PM
I don't think that it's insensitive to speak your mind about the difficulties of being a father or a father to be.
I'm sure it's difficult dealing with someone who is miserable all the time. However, when you repeatedly say essentially that she's faking it, that does make you seem insensitive.
You have no way of knowing that it's in her head or that she's read too many books. You have no other frame of reference, but really, each pregnancy is its own frame of reference.
The problem isn't that she's faking it, because I know she's not.
This is the problem:
In 2004, she had a very severe anxiety attack brought on by fear of mortality. Worse, she had it while we were away on a family vacation, instead of at home. The urgent-care center we went to didn't help -- we didn't know it was an anxiety attack, and neither did they, so they said (essentially), "we don't know what's wrong with you, here's some antinausea medicine like you asked for, see your own doctor when you get home".
The moment her doctor diagnosed her with anxiety/panic disorder and prescribed her Zoloft, she looked up the side effects, and then proceeded to have 95% of them. I'm certain she was having a few side effects, but ALL of them? Some of them are counterindicated, like constipation and diarrhea. (I've really seen one medicine -- not Zoloft -- have both of those as potential side effects.)
She also started seeing a counselor, but was extremely resistant to the theraputic techniques the counselor tried to use to help her. She saw a second counselor when we moved to Georgia, but that one was just as unhelpful. She eventually stopped taking the medication and has had a couple of minor anxiety attacks, but nothing serious. However, her overall anxiety level has gone up to somewhere between "above normal" and "almost but not quite dangerous". Whenever something happens (physically), she researches it obsessively and seeks out the worst.
The moment the test said "pregnant" she began researching everything about pregnancy. Good, right? Well, not so much, because she immediately -- like, within 12 hours -- started having morning sickness. She went to the OB and they gave her a list of different foods to try, as well as suggesting she take Vitamin B6 and get an acupressure bracelet. She tried the foods, and they worked a little, but then she "got tired" of them and returned to her normal diet of chocolate milk, cookies, and whatever she felt like scrounging out of the fridge. She didn't try the Vitamin B6 or the bracelet. She still resists them.
She stopped taking the prenatal vitamins because she felt (rightly) that they were contributing to her nausea. But that didn't go away, and she got a bad case of acid reflux. Since she can't take reflux medication (her doctor says), she's taking an antinausea medicine so she doesn't throw up when the reflux hits. I've asked her to ask the doctor if she can take one dose baby aspirin to maybe soothe the tickle in her throat and make her stop coughing (a symptom of her reflux) but she refuses to ask.And that's where we are right now.
I'm sure she's definitely feeling some "generic" pregnancy symptoms, but I think that she's also feeling some subconsciously, based upon her medical history. That's basically what I was trying to say.
Quote from: Listener on February 20, 2006, 04:44:20 PM
Quote from: Jessie on February 20, 2006, 04:26:24 PM
I don't think that it's insensitive to speak your mind about the difficulties of being a father or a father to be.
I'm sure it's difficult dealing with someone who is miserable all the time. However, when you repeatedly say essentially that she's faking it, that does make you seem insensitive.
You have no way of knowing that it's in her head or that she's read too many books. You have no other frame of reference, but really, each pregnancy is its own frame of reference.
The problem isn't that she's faking it, because I know she's not.
This is the problem:
In 2004, she had a very severe anxiety attack brought on by fear of mortality. Worse, she had it while we were away on a family vacation, instead of at home. The urgent-care center we went to didn't help -- we didn't know it was an anxiety attack, and neither did they, so they said (essentially), "we don't know what's wrong with you, here's some antinausea medicine like you asked for, see your own doctor when you get home".
The moment her doctor diagnosed her with anxiety/panic disorder and prescribed her Zoloft, she looked up the side effects, and then proceeded to have 95% of them. I'm certain she was having a few side effects, but ALL of them? Some of them are counterindicated, like constipation and diarrhea. (I've really seen one medicine -- not Zoloft -- have both of those as potential side effects.)
She also started seeing a counselor, but was extremely resistant to the theraputic techniques the counselor tried to use to help her. She saw a second counselor when we moved to Georgia, but that one was just as unhelpful. She eventually stopped taking the medication and has had a couple of minor anxiety attacks, but nothing serious. However, her overall anxiety level has gone up to somewhere between "above normal" and "almost but not quite dangerous". Whenever something happens (physically), she researches it obsessively and seeks out the worst.
The moment the test said "pregnant" she began researching everything about pregnancy. Good, right? Well, not so much, because she immediately -- like, within 12 hours -- started having morning sickness. She went to the OB and they gave her a list of different foods to try, as well as suggesting she take Vitamin B6 and get an acupressure bracelet. She tried the foods, and they worked a little, but then she "got tired" of them and returned to her normal diet of chocolate milk, cookies, and whatever she felt like scrounging out of the fridge. She didn't try the Vitamin B6 or the bracelet. She still resists them.
She stopped taking the prenatal vitamins because she felt (rightly) that they were contributing to her nausea. But that didn't go away, and she got a bad case of acid reflux. Since she can't take reflux medication (her doctor says), she's taking an antinausea medicine so she doesn't throw up when the reflux hits. I've asked her to ask the doctor if she can take one dose baby aspirin to maybe soothe the tickle in her throat and make her stop coughing (a symptom of her reflux) but she refuses to ask.
And that's where we are right now.
I'm sure she's definitely feeling some "generic" pregnancy symptoms, but I think that she's also feeling some subconsciously, based upon her medical history. That's basically what I was trying to say.
Ok, I'm sure it's more complicated than we'll ever know totally. I'm sorry you're both having a rough time with the pregnancy.
Quote from: Jessie on February 20, 2006, 04:48:09 PM
Quote from: Listener on February 20, 2006, 04:44:20 PM
Quote from: Jessie on February 20, 2006, 04:26:24 PM
I don't think that it's insensitive to speak your mind about the difficulties of being a father or a father to be.
I'm sure it's difficult dealing with someone who is miserable all the time. However, when you repeatedly say essentially that she's faking it, that does make you seem insensitive.
You have no way of knowing that it's in her head or that she's read too many books. You have no other frame of reference, but really, each pregnancy is its own frame of reference.
The problem isn't that she's faking it, because I know she's not.
I'm sure she's definitely feeling some "generic" pregnancy symptoms, but I think that she's also feeling some subconsciously, based upon her medical history. That's basically what I was trying to say.
Ok, I'm sure it's more complicated than we'll ever know totally. I'm sorry you're both having a rough time with the pregnancy.
Thanks.
Paint the room a gender neutral color like yellow or green. Get a good paint that will go on in one coat.
Do you talk to your wife about how you think things are going?
If it's a boy and your worried about what his friends will say then paint it in like 4 friggin years when he even has friends coming over into his room.
Quote from: cnamon on February 21, 2006, 10:25:11 AM
Paint the room a gender neutral color like yellow or green. Get a good paint that will go on in one coat.
Do you talk to your wife about how you think things are going?
We were actually thinking blue -- most girls I know like blue.
I try to talk to her. But it's hard. The hormones -- and she admits this -- make her irrational without warning from time to time.
Quote from: DownSouth on February 21, 2006, 10:37:22 AM
If it's a boy and your worried about what his friends will say then paint it in like 4 friggin years when he even has friends coming over into his room.
I would just rather do it now, when we don't have to (a) keep the kid out of his room for two days while the paint dries and the fumes air out (b) move all the toys and furniture and stuff away from the walls (which we would have to do now, but there's only four pieces of furniture in there).
Am I the only one that thinks a baby doesn't care what color the walls in its room are?
Quote from: Bishamonten on February 21, 2006, 10:56:08 AM
Am I the only one that thinks a baby doesn't care what color the walls in its room are?
I think it matters because the way a room looks can effect your mood and how you think.
In my house, I don't like being in my guest bedroom because it has no color on the walls and it is boring. I feel most comfortable in a room that is inviting.
If the parents (in this case) aren't comfortable in the room and don't think it feels right, it could effect the baby.
Quote from: cnamon on February 21, 2006, 10:58:53 AM
Quote from: Bishamonten on February 21, 2006, 10:56:08 AM
Am I the only one that thinks a baby doesn't care what color the walls in its room are?
I think it matters because the way a room looks can effect your mood and how you think.
In my house, I don't like being in my guest bedroom because it has no color on the walls and it is boring. I feel most comfortable in a room that is inviting.
If the parents (in this case) aren't comfortable in the room and don't think it feels right, it could effect the baby.
The kid will have just came from a wet dark pinkish gray cave...
Quote from: cnamon on February 21, 2006, 10:58:53 AM
If the parents (in this case) aren't comfortable in the room and don't think it feels right, it could effect the baby.
If the way a parent feels about the paint color of a room, really affects the baby, those people should not be parents.
(Note: Listener, I am not saying you shouldn't be parents. I doubt your feelings on the lilac room would affect your child's well being.)
Quote from: Alice on February 21, 2006, 11:09:11 AM
Quote from: cnamon on February 21, 2006, 10:58:53 AM
If the parents (in this case) aren't comfortable in the room and don't think it feels right, it could effect the baby.
If the way a parent feels about the paint color of a room, really affects the baby, those people should not be parents.
(Note: Listener, I am not saying you shouldn't be parents. I doubt your feelings on the lilac room would affect your child's well being.)
Except for the fact that if you place a boy in a lilac room he will obviously grow up with an insatiable urge for cock...
Quote from: Bishamonten on February 21, 2006, 11:10:14 AM
Quote from: Alice on February 21, 2006, 11:09:11 AM
Quote from: cnamon on February 21, 2006, 10:58:53 AM
If the parents (in this case) aren't comfortable in the room and don't think it feels right, it could effect the baby.
If the way a parent feels about the paint color of a room, really affects the baby, those people should not be parents.
(Note: Listener, I am not saying you shouldn't be parents. I doubt your feelings on the lilac room would affect your child's well being.)
Except for the fact that if you place a boy in a lilac room he will obviously grow up with an insatiable urge for cock...
Hmmm... I wonder if that's why all the guys in chat are gay?
Oh, for pete's sake. It's paint. It's not rocket science. Just throw up fabric over the walls and when Listener, Jr. is old enough to care about wall color, either send him or her to Grandma's for the weekend or let him or her help.
Quote from: Alice on February 21, 2006, 11:12:43 AM
Quote from: Bishamonten on February 21, 2006, 11:10:14 AM
Quote from: Alice on February 21, 2006, 11:09:11 AM
Quote from: cnamon on February 21, 2006, 10:58:53 AM
If the parents (in this case) aren't comfortable in the room and don't think it feels right, it could effect the baby.
If the way a parent feels about the paint color of a room, really affects the baby, those people should not be parents.
(Note: Listener, I am not saying you shouldn't be parents. I doubt your feelings on the lilac room would affect your child's well being.)
Except for the fact that if you place a boy in a lilac room he will obviously grow up with an insatiable urge for cock...
Hmmm... I wonder if that's why all the guys in chat are gay?
Stop sending pictures of your penis to us.
(http://www.teenageunicorn.com/wedding40.jpg)
The color of the room won't make your kid gay, it's physical contact and sometimes close proximity with them that will.
Quote from: eo000 on February 21, 2006, 12:11:44 PM
Quote from: Gamplayerx on February 21, 2006, 11:13:14 AM
pete's sake.
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You're an amazing man.
Also, man, what Gamp said is right. it's paint. Crap. Please, resolve this before something important comes up, like what outfit he should wear in his hospital picture.
Quote from: Jessie on February 22, 2006, 07:38:16 AM
Quote from: eo000 on February 21, 2006, 12:11:44 PM
Quote from: Gamplayerx on February 21, 2006, 11:13:14 AM
pete's sake.
(http://i1.tinypic.com/o8ut7t.jpg)
You're an amazing man.
Also, man, what Gamp said is right. it's paint. Crap. Please, resolve this before something important comes up, like what outfit he should wear in his hospital picture.
IT IS NOT JUST PAINT!
It is hard for me to be comfortable in rooms that are uninviting to me. That is one of the reasones why I don't go home.
But then again, I am strange.
And this is not really about the baby...it is more about the comfort level of the parents.
I like pie.
I'm liking my fabric idea more and more. I think you should get lengths of muslin, send them to friends and family members and have them decorate them to welcome the newcomer into the fold and then hang them on the walls. You could use velcro. I think that would be neat.
Quote from: Gamplayerx on February 22, 2006, 04:58:28 PM
I'm liking my fabric idea more and more. I think you should get lenghts of muslin, send them to friends and family members and have them decorate them to welcome the newcomer into the fold and then hang them on the walls. You could use velcro. I think that would be neat.
That is an awesome idea.